RESULTS!

My new anthem for the rest of this year is "specializing in results"!

I did my friend KEY's hair and it came out AWESome!

No pics yet...but come soon!

Experiment....

A long time ago in a far away land…. Nah, just kidding… a long time ago I did a post of my various hairstyles.

Well, I have a lot of friends that have asked me to do their hair. I’ve had ladies out on the street ask me to do their hair; but I keep telling people that I don’t do hair I just do my own.

The truth is what if the style doesn’t come out good? I am at fault! Or what if their hair falls out?! I don’t need anyone beating me up over her hair! Because I would fight a bitch about my hair!

Well, I have one friend, lets call her Key, really needs help. She’s a great girl really…but her hair game is not up to par. She’s the girl that always leaves her hair in way too long…

My other home girl her hair would normally be shot to hell as well….but she got the message when her sister finished cosmetology school…now she gets her DID every week. She was 35 wearing buns to work… but now she’s all super asymmetrical hair cut stylish chic girl…

Anyways my homegirl Key, asked me to do her hair. She’s short on funds… and I invited her to go to a party with me on Saturday (so I especially, want her hair to be cute.) *cheesy silly smile.

I’ve even thought to myself…she should let me do her hair. Finally this week she asked me to do it. So this Thursday for the first time I will be doing someone’s weave.

Now I am my OWN weavologist; I keeps my hair WHIPPED! but I will be weaving up some one else…. And I’m a lil scared….

Here’s the crazy part….I never do a full head weave on myself. I like it better when I leave a lil bit out…. but she wants no hair out… So I am going to be doing someone eslse hair in way that I’ve never done….

I went on to youtube and checked out a few chics and their closing styles and If KEY doesn’t want to buy the closure, then I am going to use the wrap around and glue and then inert it the closing and then sew in procedure….. We shall see…. I will definitely post and let the WORLD know how it came out….

Friday was so much fun.

I ended up wearing this bohemian inspired, blue, purple, white, black, gold printed, off the shoulder mini dress with a black wide band belt that fit just under the breast, and my knee black high boots. I’m wearing my hair with swooped to the side bangs and big curls all over…so the out fit all sort of "fit" together.

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Vh1 was supposed to go with me…but in his true Libra-esque anti-social style he flipped the script on me and didn’t go. He went on a run with his uncle instead….so I went to another social event ALONE. Sigh. Well at least I was cute.
I told him through drunken sobbing tears Saturday morning that it hurt my feelings that he didn’t want to go with me. I told him I love him so much that I want to share him with other people…he said that he never looked at it that way and he’d work on it. I believe him.


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At the party, I found three of my friends who came to the event coupled up but through liquor induced bad girl-ness decided we head out girls only" to hit up the after hours, just us four girls.
I’ll tell you something about Belizean folks…Those heffas can party! It was 5 a.m. when I left because my feet hurt and I could barely hold my eyes open and I was already beginning to have a hangover, so who knows what time the other three left.

I got home safe, passed out across my unmade bed and slept for a few hours, threw up, and all was well.

You know those jokes folks send through email…. "You know how you know you’re old" well I know I’m old because my bank put a hold on my Debit card because they thought the late night bar charges were out of character and thought someone had stole my card!!!
LOL so sad.

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I took my daughter and my little cousin to see Coraline on Saturday…its scary. Like not just for the kids…for me too.

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Then I took the girlies to Hometown Buffet…..(my cousins Bri’s girlfriend had given me some "kids eat free" coupons …) and Let me tell you….their barbeque is the bizness!!!! Me and the girls sat there for almost 45 minutes stuffing our faces….LOL. No wonder I need to loose this extra 20 pounds!!! Damn barbeque.

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Why is it so windy here in Cali today? The wind is blowing like crazy…good thing I got the messy big curls hair today.

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I had a pretty tough morning this morning…. I left my cell phone at home…I broke two fingernails!!!…My skin is super dry…. This stupid V05 hair spray is making me flaky! And I have on a black shirt…I burned the top of my mouth with my coffee and something’s wrong with one of my rims so it keeps making my tire pressure low.

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I still haven’t found anyone to pick up MY and keep her for less than 30 minutes a day…not since my father bitched out on me…pulled his same life tricks … sigh….life is so difficult when you’re having fun.

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I will be eating Pho today for lunch….if you don’t know about Vietnamese noodles you better get in the game!

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Please somebody tell CrazyC to stop calling me asking me when are he and I going to have a baby.....lol the boy is a mess...

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Funny story about my daughter: last night vh1, MY and I went to CVS. While I paid for the goods, MY and Vh1 pretended to do the tango… they danced all around him twirling and spinning her like she was a little princess. I loved it. The two people I love loving each other….I wish I had a camera with me. I love the fact he could careless how silly he looked he just wanted her to smile.

Once we got into the car, MY kept asking me if I was ok. She asked me three times before I really realized she was asking me the same question over and over. Finally I ask her "Why are you asking me am I ok?" She says "I just wanted to know if you were jealous over how me and Vh1 were dancing…" Vh1 and I laughed with surprise. She says "Yeah maybe next time you should dance with him like me."

My kid is crazy.

I'm a face book junkie now.

I know I’ve asked this question before; but really, why are haters everywhere?
They feed on the scent of folks minding their own business, don’t they? They just can’t leave me alone. I’m in my cubicle I’m doing my business.

Sigh….

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So my weekend turned out pretty good up there in Northern Cali.

Saturday morning Vh1 called me at 4 am to make sure I got up for my flight at 7.

I arrived in Oakland at 8.

I rented a convertible white mustang….yea! So you know I was looking super fine valentine.

It was foggy and I was a little irritated that I couldn’t put the top down

I decided to have breakfast Denny's and then go over to the mall (which I found with the GPS system in my rental car)..

And who should I run into at the Denny’s? The maid of honor! She was there with her mom.

They invited me to breakfast. Since I hadn’t checked into my room, they invited me to stay at their hotel room with them (the room was free because the bride and groom paid for it) so I canceled my reservation at my hotel (extended Stay Deluxe) and stayed with them at the Sheridan.

After breakfast we went back to their room.

Their room was where the bride got dressed, so I got to see her getting her make up on and everything. It was very nice.

I got dressed after the bridal party went down stairs.

And when I went down stairs to get in my car and WHY did it have a flat tire! I was so irritated.

When I called the rental service the man told me that he couldn't get there in enough time to change the tire and for me to get to the wedding in enough time, so to "just get a ride" YES that is his exact words….I was heated.

So I got a ride with the Maid of honor’s mom.

The wedding was BEAUTIFUL. When I say beautiful, I mean simply beautiful. It was at a golf course south of Oakland in San Ramon. .

The ceremony was out side next to this lake. It was cold but It was worth it.

The two bridesmaids had strapless dresses that gathered on the side and had a diamond pendant on the side.

The maid of honor wore a chocolate dress that was almost just like Michelle Obama's inauguration dress and it had a diamond o the shoulder. They all carried orange sunflowers in their hands.

The bride’s dress was strapless and gathered at the breast and had a diamond pendant in the center. It was like sheer flowy material to the ground. She wore her hair in straw curls and had a flower in her hair.

The guys walked in to the instrumental to "The Light" by Common. The girls walked in to this song by Musiq and she walked down the isle to this song by India Aire. Her mom gave her away.

The pastor was funny and sweet.

They jumped the broom.

After the ceremony there was a cocktail hour in the bar area of the golf course. The groom’s parents brought paid for all drinks.... and there was a slide show full of pictures chronicling their 7 year relationship….yes she waited 7 years..

Then we went inside for the reception.
They danced to "If your love was all I had" by Justin Timberlake.
The cake was white with chocolate brown designs on it.
The party favors were a burlap sack with a glass of brown sugar and their names on it...and these heart shaped measuring spoons and each spoon said stuff like "a pinch of love" a spoon of caring...so on and so on.

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After the wedding I got back to the hotel called the rental car service and cussed them out. They came and fixed the tire at like 12 in the morning.

Then I had to return the car at 9. So, I didn't get to really drive it at all. I complained about the road side assistance and at first the manager said to me "what would you do if it was your own car..." that pissed me off so I went off...... So, they gave me the car for half off.

I was tired and ready to go home so I didn't extend my rental and stay the rest of the day until my flight home at 8pm so I went to the airport and had Southwest change my flight to 10am.
I got back here in the Southland at 11am

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There is still the issue VH1’s behavior…. Which I know y’all told me to stop tripping on…

Well Sunday night he came over …after my nap and we spent all day Monday together.
There was some issues going on with him… See, I know my man BLOG FAMILY!!
He confessed said issues…. No cheating…it was some legal stuff that I knew about…but didn’t really know about.

We’re back in the gang now…. All happy and fuzzy and in love.

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My friend’s little sister is turning 24…. Gees, I’m old. And Vh1 and I are going to her birthday. I need help building an outfit… Any suggestions? At 27 I feel uber old. I want to be HOT but not old lady Hot…. New hip hottie Hot…. You know?
I love these black shinny leggings that are the rave now…. And I like mini dresses…so I’m thinking of going in either of those two directions…. But I got fat knees lol and a big butt and a chunky middle LOL!!!!!! So I don’t know if my body wants to go in either of those directions…

For the random of the moment here’s a picture of my niece.

they call me brotha to the night.....

so one of my very good friends ambo is getting married.
she lives up north. so this march i'm flying up there to go to her wedding.

but this weekend she's having her bridal shower around the corner from my house. (she's originally from this area and the majority of her family is too) i am sooooo excited.

the theme of her wedding is "love jones" (her new hubby's last name is jones and that movie is her favorite movie) the invitations are soooo adorable.

for her gift i decided to make a "love kit", i brought a cute box with these simply adorable colors (brown and hot pink and white) with a top, a bottle of champagne ($10), two champage glasses with "Jones" engraved on them ($0.99 cent store and the swapmeet around the corner), a massage lotion($6), a box of chocolates ($3), ky- his and hers ($6), a classy lingerie dress with matching undies($11 walmart....i brought myself the same one for vh1 and he LOOOOVVVVVEEEEDDDD it...matter fact i might pull that on out again), a "lover's CD ($1- made it myself...it has the sweetest thing by lauryn hill...say yes by floetry, Whenever whatever by maxwell and 8 other of my most favorite bump and grind songs) and the book "Like the singing coming off of the Drums: Love Poems" by Sonia Sanchez ($5) Amazon books (two of the poems used in the movie love jones are from this book) and a picture of us at our jr high homecoming with her hair her looking super fly...

tell me that this gift didn't take time and consideration and research! lol

I was going to buy condoms....but do married people use condoms? I wouldn't think so.... anyhoo..

All the shopping brought up so many memories of my friendship with her...like taking our first HIV test together and me teaching her to drive...even though she's a backwards lefty and her giving me her left over graduation invitations because I couldn't afford my own, our crazy converstations in our high pitched voices and letters to each other our first year in college, being in this Cedric Ceballos music video made at his house for his two minute rap career....even though it was never released...i should check youtube for it..... gees I love her.

i love seeing people in love. its an event to be admired and truely treasured. i am sooo happy for my girl ambo.

she's always been the good girl. always. going to school everyday, getting a 4.2 average, going to berkley getting her degree and her masters, working for the govenor....i mean seriously my homegirl has it going on. i am so happy for her....and i cannot wait to see her saturday. i also get to see faces of folks i haven't seen in 10 years....trip that?!

well that that that that's allllll folks!

frustration.

situation #1
around wednesday my friend Stace called me and asked me to go with her to a 70's party for her sister on saturday night. i was on the fence about it since i'm supposed to be ending my toxic friendship with her. I had given her a tenative yes.

vh1 invited me to go with him to a party that his friend was having on saturday night. i agreed to go. i called stace and told her i couldn't go, she said 'cool let her know if i change my mind.'

after my friends babyshower on saturday, vh1 and i were to meet up and go to the party. when i get to his house he says to me "so what you want to do?" I say "what do you mean?" he says "let's go to the movies."

I was soooo irritated. How you gone change the plans and not even let me know?!
He on the other hand couldn't figure out why I was so mad.
He says 'I thought it was about spending time with you not going to the party.'

What yall think?

situation#2
I was over studios house on sunday, sitting on the couch with vh1. Martinez (my sumadatime friend) came in. she sees me on the couch. I get up to hug her and she whispers in my ear "Are you pregnant?" I look at her like WTF! I look down at myself...looking very cute. No belly sticking out, no fat fat girl on Sunday. she says "I just htought you were."

Now was it wrong of me to cuss her out?

"Come and knock on Our Door..."

i'm feeling real fresh prince of bel air today? why I don't know. I have the theme song on repeat in my head! that and the three's company... weird huh?

as always! my weekend:

-friday, i cleaned my house. that took all night!

-saturday, i got my oil changed, brought two tires for the front, brought MY some more uniforms, brought snacks from BigLots, and made jumbalya for dinner.

-sunday, i went to church. the lesson was "Be Disciplined in Your Disillusion" which for me was, exactly what I needed. He spoke about how everyone has an image of how they feel certain things should go and often times when that exact image isn't what we get; we immediately want to end it and move on to find that next perfect image. He talked about how newly weds have an image of what the feel marriage is, and when it is not that perfect cookie cutter image most couples give up...he talked about being disciplined when your illusion is DISSED. it was what i needed to hear.

- sunday night i had girls night at my house. it was so much fun! bigsis, kinkos, sonystudios, NDN, and Stace all came. We watched my studio copy of Sex and City the movie (I have a friend who's a member of The Academy...yeah I know, he's not supposed to lend them out to folks...oh well) I brought pizza hut pastas...YUMMY! and cut up some fruit and we drank wine all the night long!

-monday, MY, Vh1 and I hung out doing NUTHIN all day. we didn't even get dressed. we didn't even cook. we just laid around haphazardly....lovely!

-Today was my daughter's first day of first grade. Her teacher is very cute. She looks like the kind of black girl that I would be friends with. like someone i would have had over my house sunday night for girls night. she was very polite. she seemed organized and like she knew what she was doing.... that was just what she looked like....so we'll see.

My weekend...once again.

Friday: My cousin's wife turned 50. So he had a BIG party for her.
I was sooo cute!! I wore a black floor length tube dress with a silver pendant in the center of my breast. black high heels with one strap around the ankle and one across the toe. I wore my
hair long with a part on the side and the side in my face was flipped to the side. I wore charcoal colored eyeshadow...it was too cute...I will post a pic. HAHA my cousin's wife had a good time too. lol

Late Night Friday: I went to the bar on the corner by my house and had a drink and watched the pool tornement.

Saturday: Stace dropped by around 11. Vh1 and made her and her son breakfast (waffles, eggs and bacon, and mimosas) Then we watched Hard 8. Such a great underated movie.
I cooked dinner (rice, pork chops and tomato soup) that night and knocked out like I was
drugged.

Sunday: Vh1 and I went to eat at Versailles, this cuban food resturant....Grilled salmon and rice DELICIOUS!! Then I brought MY some uniforms....LORD how I love uniforms!

WHOHOO such an eventful weekend...lol...
What did you do this weekend?

15 Things you may not have known About my homegirl Michelle Obama

stolen from the Washington Post

Sun Aug 24, 11:49 PM ET
1 As a child, she loved girlie stuff like her Easy Bake Oven and Barbie (she had the car and the house, too).

2When it comes to television, she's a fan of Sex in the City, The Sopranos and HGTV.

3 Her favorite author: Toni Morrison

4 Her father, Fraser Robinson, a former boxer, suffered from multiple sclerosis from age 30. He was a Democratic precinct captain and worked at the city water filtration plant in Chicago. Although he met and liked Barack, he died in 1991, a year before the Obamas were married.

5 As a kid, she alternated days doing dish-washing duty with her big brother, Craig. It was also her job to clean the bathroom every Saturday.

6 She skipped second grade.

7She attended Whitney Young, Chicago's first magnet high school, where she was student council treasurer, a member of the National Honor Society and a four-year honor roll student.

8 She's a 1985 cum laude graduate of Princeton University, where she shared a room with three other women and had to walk down three flights of stairs to get to the bathroom.

9 She graduated from Harvard Law School in 1988 and was hired by the blue chip law firm Sidley & Austin in Chicago, where she specialized in marketing and intellectual property law. She was picked to be the adviser to a summer associate, Barack Obama.

10 She doesn't wear pantyhose because they always rip; she says it's difficult to find ones that fit her 5-foot-11 frame.

11 The Rev. Jesse Jackson's daughter, Santita, sang at her wedding. They're childhood friends.

12 As a newlywed, she gave up corporate law and took a huge pay cut to open the Chicago office of Public Allies, part of former President Clinton's AmeriCorps, which helped young people to enter public service work.

13 She sits on six boards, including the University of Chicago Laboratory Schools, which her daughters, Sasha and Malia, attend.

14 In a job interview with University of Chicago Hospitals, she brought along baby daughter Sasha (now 7) because she couldn't find a baby sitter. She got the job.

15 She likes predawn workouts and held outdoor jump-rope clinics at her house for her daughter's ballet class.

SOURCES: Chicago Sun-Times, Newsweek,
The Washington Post

update on Drama...

* After our misunderstanding on sunday. i was feeling a little co-dependent. sorta clingy. really truely not myself. not to the point where i was irritating vh1, but i was irritating myself.

* I was trying to decide if it was in our best intrest to spend the day togehter or apart; but, VH1 made it clear with me that his intention was to spend the rest of the day with me whether that was in my plans or not.

* MY decided she wanted to go to my aunts for the week... so she's gon again! I swear I rarely see the kid. I took her to my aunt, who was at a football game for Snoop's son's team. She hopped out the car kissed me and was on her way!

* By the time I got back to my apartment Vh1 and I were starving. He wanted to try something other than Mexican and Soul food. So we were going to go to this Jamaican resturant, but once inside the smell of the place made me gag... I love Jamacian food, so that's not what was amiss...it was a dirty, stuffy old people smell that made me lightheaded. The table tops were greasy and the pictures on the menu looked slimy. Vh1 saw my face, without saying anything he grabbed my hand and we left.

* We went to this Chinese resturant called Twin Dragon. The food was off the HOOK! Man if you're ever out that way: Please try the Spicy Chicken Chow Mein. OMG..... DELICIOUS! and it's cheap like $8 a dish.

* Vh1 and I were both deathly tired. To the point that we were unable to hold a conversation with each other.

*I noticed he didn't put his hand on my leg as we drove home. That made me a little sad. But I didn't dare bring it up.

*He was in a trance the majority of the day. All the deaths that he's been having in his life lately forces him to face his on immortality-hard for folks our age to deal with. something so distant is right there in your face...6 in the last month. A cousin-brain tumor, a friend- brain cancer, a friend- heart attack, a friend-shot, his friend is a foster parent and woke up and one of the babies died of SIDS, and now this friend. He had NO ENERGY. His ora was a shady, foggy colored grey. He wasn't him. He couldn't concentrate. He's already touchy feely, but he was even more so. Holding my hand, rubbing my face, footsie under the table. I was feeling the same way kinda like I wanted to be touching him, close to him... weird huh?...I think so.

*Once we got home....I mean to my apartment. I got a call from Stace. She said she was downstairs and to come check out her new car. I went down and chatted with her -the good for nothing boyfriend moved to to NewYork and didn't tell her- the job's going good- she brought a Jeep Liberty.

* I came back up stairs to a peaceful sleeping semi naked man laying in my bed and claimed my spot in that perfect space where his arm connects to his shoulder...SAFETY. sigh.

* In the morning, he stood in the door way of the bathroom watching me do my hair and brush my teeth and scrub my face. He talked my ear off, like usual. He joked that I'm a gangsta. And that I had set tripped on him.

* In the car he slid his hand down my leg and squeezed my thigh. I felt relieved.

Stole this from Monie....

1. Your name spelled backwards. Enaj
2. Where were your parents born? My mother was born in Detroit. My father in Chicago.
3. What is the last thing you downloaded onto your computer? The Adobe update
4. What’s your favorite restaurant? Shanghai Red in Marina Del Rey
5. Last time you swam in a pool? Last Summer
6. Have you ever been in a school play? Yes, I went to a performing arts high school
7. How many kids do you want? I have one, I’m considering one more.
8. Type of music you dislike most? Techno
9. Are you registered to vote? Yes, of course.
10. Do you have cable? NO…surprisingly.
11. Have you ever ridden on a moped? No.
12. Ever prank call anybody? Yeah…not anytime recently….years and years ago.. I hate the phone now. I spend 8 hours answering one...
13. Ever get a parking ticket? Um…. Please I got so many parking tickets I can’t believe they still let me park in Los Angeles.
14. Would you go bungee jumping or sky diving? Neither…no thank you.
15. Furthest place you ever traveled. Florida…
16. Do you have a garden? Nope
17. What’s your favorite comic strip? The Boondocks.
18. Do you really know all the words to your national anthem? Yep…I had to teach my 5 year old.
19. Bath or Shower, morning or night? Both and both.
20. Best movie you’ve seen in the past month? The new Batman… and Step brothers…I can not stress how funny this movie was.
21. Favorite pizza topping? Cheese
22. Chips or popcorn? Chips
23. What color lipstick do you usually wear? Nude lipgloss
24. Have you ever smoked peanut shells? Um…no, why would I do that?
25. Have you ever been in a beauty pageant? Yes. I was Ms Jr. Teen Los Angeles 1996.
26. Orange Juice or apple? Orange Juice
27. Who was the last person you went out to dinner with and where did you dine? Out to eat? Um… MY and I went to Friday’s on Wednesday.
28. Favorite type chocolate bar? 3 Musketters.
29. When was the last time you voted at the polls?About a month ago...Illegal aliens wanted the right to have social security...um any opinions on the topic? I've got one! lol
30. Last time you ate a homegrown tomato? Tomatoes are gross. When I see them I always think of the Simpsons episode where Homer made a cross between Tomato and tobacco…
31. Have you ever won a trophy? Yes a few. Ms. Congeniality, Ms. Personality…all that crap is out the window now. lol...I'm the angry Black lady most days.
32. Are you a good cook? I’m pretty good.
33. Do you know how to pump your own gas? Of course.
34. Ever order an article from an infomercial? Yes…. I hate how I’m so easily brainwashed…
35. Sprite or 7-up? Sprite, it’s sweeter
36. Have you ever had to wear a uniform to work? I had to wear a lab coat, does that count?
37. Last thing you bought at a pharmacy? Sinus medication…boy how I have issues.
38. Ever throw up in public? Yes…last Friday..
39. Would you prefer being a millionaire or find true love? True love.
40. Do you believe in love at first sight? Yes.
41. Ever call a 1-900 number? No…why?
42. Can ex’s be friends? Yes.
43. Who was the last person you visited in a hospital? Sonystudios when she had her baby a month ago.
44. Did you have a lot of hair when you were a baby? Yes…so much the doctor had to trim it.
45. What message is on your answering machine? "Hey it’s Jane, leave your name and a message and I’ll get back." That’s home. "Hi, You’ve reached Jane at extension 7160, I’m either on the phone or away from my desk. So please leave your name and a brief message and I’ll get back as soon as possible. Thanks!" thats work
46. What’s your all time favorite Saturday Night Live Character? Ummm I don’t really watch SNL .
47. What was the name of your first pet? I had a Yorkshire Terrier named Beastie after the Beastie boys and a Yellow canary named Denis
48. What is in your purse? My turquoise brush, my wallet, a mirror, keys, frosted biege lipgloss, mascara, a pen, $12, my cellphone, my ear ring from my right ear (I wear a blue tooth type device for work) and a heart shaped rock.
49. Favorite thing to do before bedtime? Watch tv and drink wine...cuddle.
50. What is one thing you are grateful for today? For God’s grace of a new day.

End of weekend post...

As usual, my monday post is about what i did this weekend....lol...

Early morning Friday My daughter's father called me all gangbangerish telling me that it was his weekend to have MY even though she'd only been home since Tuesday. Rather than fight with him and have to deal with him and his grown ass man tantrums, I told him I'd bring her after I got off of work.

So I dropped her off. She's covered in the belief that her father is superman, so she went happily.

My little cousin babycam, had invited me to his birthday party, so I called Kinkos to see if she wanted to roll out, she did...of course. I got dressed....I was killing them softly with my yellow summer dress that ties in the back and this red mary jane stiletos and red clutch....lol.

His party was at this spot called Area. Kinkos and I weren't to keen on the spot since it's mainly a white folks hangout, so we decided since babycam had us on the list to get in free it was worth at least an hour of our time.

Once we got inside....the spot was real FRESH. I mean really nice, like a music video fresh. You're inside but not really...you're sorta outside. The music was hip hop a mix of old school and new school.... It was dope. Babycam had two tables with a lil waitress serving drinks and getting us right. Kinkos saw her Jerseyboyfriend's publicist and went to say her hello's to her and we find out that babycam works for the chic....small world.... come to find out even more....babycam and kinko's jerseyboyfriend are real good friends! lol

Well needless to say, we drunk up plently of free Grey Goose....as much as we could. babycam's brother Don, my other little cousin that I hardly ever see, came by. It was good to see my little cuzos living the life.

I was completely inebriated. I mean I actually threw up at the club.
I called Vh1 and kinkos drove to his spot to pick him up then the three of us went back to my car so that he could drive my car. Vh1 drove me home... I was drunk but let me just say that I am not very confident in his driving abilities. lol..

We got to my house made our way up the steps. Once inside I threw my self onto him kissing him with heated passion. I wrapped my legs around him and he held me up on to him as I pulled his t-shirt off. He carried me into my room, stopping in the hallway for a few minutes to kiss and so that he could untie my dress. Finally we made it to my room where he laid me gently on to the bed and kissed me ever so gently. Next thing, I know it was morning. He said mid-kiss I fell into a drunken sleep that he could not believe. He said he couldn't wake me up for anything. He said he was pretty worried about me so he didn't sleep because he kept getting up to check on me.

Around 10am I woke up and said my hellos to earl, the white porcelin God of reverse liquor drinking. I gargled and crawled right back into bed. Around 12 Vh1 got up and walked to the corner and brought me coffee. I drank it and went back to sleep. Around 3pm!!! I finally got up. Vh1 made me eggs and bacon, which I managed to hold down.

After I showered, we decided to go to the museum to see Body World's. That exhibit is a freaking trip! They are human bodies...that were once living and breathing that died they donated thier bodies to this scientist guy. Who injected them with this plasitc material so that you can see what the insides of human actually look like....It's crazy wild. All the bodies are posed in these awesome positions so that you can really really see what the muscles and bones and tendons and everything look like ....it's amazing.

In one section they had sagital slices of a brain that had a tumor....I held Vh1's hand a little tighter as we looked over that section....He stayed there much longer than the other exhibits. I know he was prolly thinking of his cousin that just passed away from a brain tumor last week. He really focused and concentrated on it. I just wanted to be able to take that sadness from him... MY is really the only other person I have ever really felt that way about. That I'd really ever wanted to experience their pain for them so that they don't have to feel it.

They even have babies that are from 4 weeks to 32 weeks. Babies that died and thier parents donated them to the exihbit. I felt so bad. So hurt. I could barely look at the 32 week old.

The last exhibit is a Giraffe. It is the most beautiful and bizarre thing I have ever since in my life. AMAZING. You can stand under it and look up into its chest cavity and see all of it's organs, muscles, bones, penis, testicles, intestines, stomach..... freaky!

After the museum, I cooked some red beans rice and chicken. And we watched the bootleg of Hancock. Cute little film.... I loved hearing Will Smith say "Cause I was drinking bitch!" LOL

Today, I got up at 7 am and picked MY up from her dumb dumb daddies. He had to be in a hair show today so he had to go get his hair braided early this morning. He needs to get that tooth in the front fixed. It's looking worst and worst....he's really fuckin up my rep! this is the man I had a baby wit and his FRONT tooth is turning brown and turning side ways!! Ol' yuck mouth bastard!

After I got home MY went back to sleep. Vh1 was in my room. He and I tried to make MY believe he got there while she was sleep that morning....I'm not so sure if she believed us. Especially since he was in his jammies.

Well around 12 we all got up and ate breakfast. Then decided to go to the park. On our way we dropped off MY's old mattress to Sonystudios, to use for the babies crib. NDN was there with her son, so I offered to take him with us to the park. I figured it best for MY to have someone else to play with.

We hung around sonystudios house until 4. so that we could pick up our art work from Color ME mine (I'll post pics I promise) and then we went to the park.....

Plenty of funny stories to tell of black folks not watching thier kids....There was a baby around 2 years old. Playing in the kids section for over 30 minutes before the momma even realized the baby was there! A little boy fell down and hit his head on the metal bars of the monkey bars and the daddy told him "don't let them girls see you cry"... Me and Vh1 were basically the only ones watching all 400 million kids that were in the park today.

Made me question if I really want more. I'd love to...but not really at the same time. Vh1 isn't interested in making babies right now (thank God) ! But what if we really end up like to gether to gether and he wants kids?! Am I willing to do all that over again? hmmmm.... My mom says of course I will want to. ... That's just cause she wants more grandkids....My sister did it...is doining it. Having a new baby with this "fianace" of hers even though she'd sworn she didn't want anymore..... I don't know. The Mail lady, Vh1 and I were talking about it last week (don't ask) and she seems to believe that Vh1 and I should have a baby next year. I didn't want to really be having the conversation but Vh1 said to the woman, "yeah prolly in a year or so..." looks like he and I need to have a conversation.... not now, though. Too early for me.

After the park we went back to sonystudios where I became hooked on this game that timmypoo has on X-box. We played and drank and hung out there for a while. Let MY play with the kids (Timmypoos daughter had come home by then) and have a ball in the back room while my friends really got a chance to spend time with Vh1.

Around 8 we left. I dropped Vh1 off at home and here I am back at home....

I just made these burritos from left over meat from Friday's tacos and some chrizo sausage...damn it was jammin! Shit! I am good! LOL....

Well I'm about to go take a shower and hop in the BED! I'm pooped!

My baby is back....she's finally home!

She's black as all get out, you could definitely tell that she has been to the bahamas.
She has her hair in cornrolls and with beads (looking like the little girl in that movie crooklyn)....she had on her skinny-legged capri jeans and a shirt that said "I'm awesome get used to it" and said "Rockstar" on the back and some gold flip flops....I didn't know who this kid was!

Her conversation, was so grown up and hilarious.

I got her home and She was soooooo excited about her room! She almost cried.

She saw this picture that vh1 and I took in a photo booth on Tuesday at themall and in one of the pics we're kissing. She studied the photo and then says "you kissed vh1?" I laugh at her and say "no." she says "yes, you did. I see you in the picture" I say "no, i didn't" laughing at her. she says "yes, you did....you love him....hahahah you love vh1!!!" I say" don't pick fun at me! I'm your mom! and I can kiss who I want." she laughs and pust he pic down and says "you love vh1" and walks out the room..... damn kids!!!

Wednesday was mommy and daughter day.
We went to visit sony studios and the new baby (MY thought she'd "missed it" so she was super anxious that she needed to see him). She was toooo excited to see that tiny little person. She wasn't even jealous to see her mommy hold him.

By the way he's sooooo adorable. I love him already. I have to post a pic.

After the visit My and I went to Friday's and had lunch. She made friends with this older woman, and wowed her with her big girl conversation. She's such a little card.

Then we walked over to "Color me Mine"... I painted a coaster set and my did a jewlry box for her room. We pick them up on Sunday....I'll have to post a pic when I get them.

We left painting and went to sign her up at daycare....she shared her lovely pictures from her trip with her friends at daycare.

Afterwards we went grocery shopping (her favorite).....I was soooo exhausted that I couldn't do anything else. I passed out on the couch after watching So, you think you can dance. lol

Back to the mommy in me....

A symphony of clean...

i didn't sleep much sunday night from being out partying with kinkos; and staying up late with vh1. but monday i was in a fantastic mood....i knew that i'd taken tuesday and wednesday off.

tuesday i woke up super early, and as vh1 would say, felt extremely "domestic".

I went into the kitchen, washed disshes, I scrubed the microwave, the toaster oven, the counter tops, the cabinet doors, the floor, the pantry, the refrigerator-inside and out, the stove, took out the trash, cleaned out the trash can, sprayed the trash can with lysol and put baking soda in the bottom, I swept the kitchen floor and the back porch, then I mopped twice.

i dusted the livingroom, cleaned the mirrors, polished the tables, vaccummed the sofas, cleaned the pictures and frames, vaccumed the livingroom and spot cleaned the carpet.

Dinning room: cleaned the dinning room table, cleaned the bar, dusted the shelves, cleaned the mirror, vaccumed the dinning room and spot cleaned the carpet.

Bathroom: cleaned the sink, organized the cabinets, cleaned the mirors, threw out the partially emptied bottles, checked for expired medication, cleaned the tub, scrubbed the shower curtain, cleaned the shower walls, washed the walls, scrubbed the toliet, scrubbed the floor, polished the faucet, dusted the knickknacks, swept and mopped the floor.

My's room: then i cut boards to my's bed with a saw (all by myself!!) put her bed togehter (all by myself!!), sprayed her new matress with lysol, put on a vinyl bed cover, new sheets, new comforter, cleaned her mirror, dusted the book shelf, scrubbed the toys she plays with out side and at the beach, scrubbed the toy bins, and put toys in the new toy bins, folded her clothes and put fabric softeners in her drawers, vaccumed and spot cleaned the carpet.

Pulled the dirty towels and sheets out of the hall closet, sprayed the hall closet with lysol, cleaned the mirrors vaccumed the hallway.

My room: I hung up my canopy....that some how was torn down in a heated sheet wrestling session vh1 and I had lol... then removed all the sheets, sprayed the mattress with lysol, put my brand new eggcrate mattress topper on the bed that I brought from work, pulled all the dirty clothes out the hamper and seperated them, pulled all the clothes out the drawers folded them, put fabric softeners in the drawers...

vh1 woke up while i was wildly cleaning my room, he gave me the craziest look and says..."what the hell is wrong with you?" I say, "I felt like cleaning today.." he says "you're a mad woman" I say "this house was filthy." he laughs at me...He gets out the bed and takes the vaccum from me and finishes it up for me.

I take the pieces for my's old bed and put them in the garage...then I ended up organizing the garage and sweeping it out... lol....

then I had vh1 take the clothes to the car, then he and i washed the clothes. i folded the clothes at the laundry then brought them home and put them away. then I put the fresh sheets and comforters on my bed.

Fin.

my weekend post...as usual...lol

as you all know I was pretty grumpy the last few days of the week last week. so i really needed to go out friday night.

stace called me and asked if i wanted to go to dinner, (i know i'm supposed to be loosing myself from our friendship....but because she has herself together this week i aggreed to go). we went to this resturant called wocano...one of my favorite sushi spots. i usually go to the one near the beverly center mall but we wanted a change of scenery, so we decided to go to the one downtown. the service was terrible. pretty damn terrible. we ended up having to tell the waiter that he is terrible. pretty damn terrible. the food was fantastic as always.... so that was good.

afterwards we walked up the street to this bar called 7grand. it's a whiskey bar...it's set up to look like we're on a train...kinda like wild wild west style. real laid back chill type place. we had a really good time. stace and i had no conflict.... it was cool.

once i got home vh1 came over....we had a little bit of an early morning arguement. i was mad at him for something he did, that he shouldn't have done.... i don't want to go into details...but it pissed me off.

early saturday morning was spent with him apologizing....the best way that ladies should be apologized to. for lunch we went out to eat. then we went and brought the rest of the items to finish MY's bedroom...(she's coming back Tuesday night.....my goodness how i miss my daughter)

saturday night we hung out and watched the black and white version of "Night of the living dead" why did everyone die?

sunday, vh1's cousin died. an older guy. he had a brain tumor, so we knew he was dying it was just a matter of when. he went to spend the day with his grandmother.

i broke my damn cellphone. so i have no numbers. can't get and make any calls. im depressed.
i orderd a new phone today so i should get it 2 moro or wednesday....i pray!

since vh1 was doing his family thing; kinkos and i went to see the Mummy. it was aiight...
afterwards we went to this bar called 4010. it's like bohemian themed bar, really nice atmosphere... we waited for our friend j to come join us and he bitched out...so we left there and went to this bar called the shortstop. sundays is du-whop night. they play all 60's type music...like james brown and diana ross and the jackson 5 we danced our little hearts out! i'm telling you we had too much fun. played a little pool. even saw a girl we went to junior high with.

kinkos dropped me at vh1's and he brought me to my house....which meant that i only had about 2 hours of rest last night....but mysteriously....I feel great! we'll see how long that lasts! I'm off of work 2morro and wednesday so maybe that has something to do with it....

what yall do this weekend?

Friends or Friendemies

On a rule, I try to be extremely selective on who I allow to be my friend. I am a believer that the people you sorround yourself with are direct reflections of who you are. If you sorround your self with gangstas and killas, most likely you're a gangsta or a killa. Sorround your self with well rounded, healthy, spiritually concious (spelling?) people, mostly like you're at least on the path to be coming that type of person as well.

The young women that I consider to be my friends, have been my friends for the last 15 years. More recently, I became friends with Stace. She and I have been friends for almost 2 and a half years now. I value our friendship. Our relationship as friends, is important to me; However there are times when our friendship feels like I'm pulling an extremely heavy bag across the dessert.

She has so much drama in her life. Everyday, every freeking day there are issues and bad luck and horrible terrible things happening to her. ALL the time.

How do you have such negative things happen to yourself all the time? You know how? You attract them to yourself! You consistenly focus on the negative all the energy and vibes you put out are negative. She never calls me with positive energy!

Before I started dating Vh1, she'd pour out her negative energy on all relationships I had. Barbershop was too thug, E was too emotional, Mrniceynice was too chunky, MrWonderful couldn't be real. etc etc. All the while she's dating this worthless piece of shit for a man. A man that is 35 and lives with his mother. A man that does not work for a living. A man that won't pick his girlfriend up from the bus stop. A man that plays dungeons and dragons. A man that goes to "comic book conventions" for weeks at a time. A man that falls asleep before she gets back from the restroom. A man that is not a man at all. He is a waste of space.

When I tell Stace about Vh1, you'd think she'd wish me well? Well I knew she wouldn't but I hoped she would. In her true fashion she sprinkled hate on me. But the worst type of hate sprinkes, jealous hate. These dust particles are different than the ones shes sprinkled on me before. This particles are sticky and cant's just be brushed aside.

I mean I know she's going through it with her dude. He's worthless. She stays with his worthless ass, for what reason? your guess is as good as mine.....but I deserve for folks to at least be happy for me.

To be continued...

Nothing else to do.

1. What is your occupation? Inside Sales Consult and Analyst
2. What color are your socks right now? none
3. What are you listening to right now? These loud ass holes at work.
4. What was the last thing you ate? Enchiladas from Pacos Tacos
5. Can you drive a stick shift? No.
6. Last person you spoke to on the phone? A dumb ass customer asking me does a wheelchair come with wheels…stupid numb nut!
7. Do you like the person who sent this to you? I stole it from Monie…I love her she’s great!
8. How old are you today? 27
9. What is your favorite sport to watch on TV? Basketball/ Football equally
10. What is your favorite drink? French Connection or Cosmo
11. Have you ever dyed your hair? Yep once…it was fly!
12. Favorite Food? Anything Cheesy!
13. What is the last movie you watched ? Step brothers.
14. Favorite day of the year? My Birthday
15. How do you vent anger? Scream! Write! Gossip to my friends! Cry!
16. What was your favorite toy as a child? Popples they were pillows and teddy bears! Oh and my teddy rubbskin and my Barbies…
17. What is your favorite season? Summer.
18. Cherries or Blueberries? Cherries

these questions had nothing to do with anything.

22. Living Arrangements? Me and this little chic I pushed out five years ago
23. When was the last time you cried? Last night. While talking to Vh1 (I was drunk)
24. What is on the floor of your closet? Shoes, a plastic bin with all my purses, my dirty clothes hamper
25. Who is the friend you have the longest that you are sending this to? Well I’m not sending it but my longest friend is Sony Studios
26. What did you do last night? Hung out with Vh1
27. Nails painted or plain? My finger nails I hardly ever, but right now they are and they’re chipped…my toes ALWAYS.
28. What are you most afraid of? Being alone.
29. Plain, cheese or spicy hamburgers? I hardly ever eat them but Cheesy and spicy.
30. Favorite dog Breed? Terriers and Labs
31. Favorite day of the week? Saturday.
32. How many states have you lived in? Too many to count.
33. What makes you happy? The thought of my daughter’s smile.

aww...i've been on vacation....sorta.

i took off of work for thursday and friday. so that, i could get some rest. my eye has been twicthing like crazy prolly because i'm so worn out. so i took a mini vacay...lol. i didn't do a damn thing. just didn't go to work! lol

thursday: i slept until 12 and when i did get up i went super shopping! shopped all day!!! didn't get home until almost 9pm. i brought MY a bedframe for $30 at this thrift store. and I brought her a brand new mattress set for $59.00!! A princess bedset for $25 brand new curtains for $5. she is going to be sooooo excited!!! I plan on doing princess crowns stencils in dark and baby pink all over her room...
Thursday night vh1 came over. we ate bbq and watched a movie.

friday: we slept until 12. around 3 he went to get his hair cut while i got my toes done. then we went shopping at the mall.

fridaynight: i went to this club with the girlies. for a listening party for rapheal sadiq's new album coming out in september....he didn't even sing! how whack.

vh1 came over after he got home from hanging with his folks.

saturday: we slept until 3pm!! lol drunk and snorring. Then we got up and went to the movies to see Step Brothers. that mess was hilarious to me! My favorite line: "I want to fill a pillowcase with soap and beat the shit out of you with it." lolol....
Once the movie was out around 1030p, we went to the grocery store and brought food and vh1 cooked....we didn't eat until 1 but it was good (steak and asparagus).

sunday: we slept until 1pm. then got up and went to the 3rd street promanade. that's on the beach but not really. We kinda got into an arguement. i was weird. it lasted like an hour. We talked it out and all is well. After a few drinks we left the beach and went to this Mexican resturant by my house and ate. Then to this little bar down the street and played pool.

lol.....so i know i need to write a real post and not just a recap of my weekend maybe i'll write a real post soon....maybe.

I had such a wonderful weekend!


Thursday night i went to dinner with Mr.wonderful. it was nice. I told him about vh1. He says he's not dating anyone yet. Funniest thing? I wasn't feeling him like I used to. that magnet we used to have is gone. He invited me to the fair. I said no. He understood.

Friday my friend Sonystudios pushed out the most beautiful little boy. He is simply adorable. He has grey eyes...what?! the ladies are going to be on him when he grows up. lol

Friday night, I did my own hair. It is really cute....I'll post a pic later. Vh1 didn't come over. It felt kinda weird because it's our routine. But I didn't trip.

Saturday morning I went to this beauty seminar, I got a lovely makeover and my make up done...I felt excellent.
Afterwards I went to visit Sonystudios and that beautiful baby for a few hours. Omg....I love new babies...Well other peoples new babies! lol
After the hospital I went to a BBQ at Barbershops new barbershop, they have one every Saturday. I had a good ole time. He and I are practicing just being "homies". He says "it's too soon for him, cause he feels like i kicked him to the curb." I told him to stop being a hoe and maybe it would've worked out.

Once I left there Vh1 and I started out going to see BatMan but once we brought the tickets and went to stand in line. The line was allllll the way around the building. So we just got a refund and went to eat.

Vh1 was acting all quiet. Not talking. Acting all monkey-like. I asked him what's wrong and he said nothing, but he kept acitng all quiet. I was getting irritated with him.... Damn libra's are so wishy washy.
When the recipt came, I picked it up and I was like "you want my half?"He gave me a look like I had slapped his face. lol. He says "give me your hands." I was like "what?" He says "give me your hands". So, I put my hands in his hands. He says smiling "don't you ever ask me about your half. I got your half. if i needed your half i'd ask you for it. don't ever ask me that sh!t again."

On our way home...
I say "what's up with you?"
He says, "Man, I just missed you. "
I say "you like me huh?"
He says "Yeah. A lot. you're really special to me."
I say "thank you, you're special to me too. But that doesn't mean you have to act all monkey with me."
He laughs. Then my friends, we went on to have "the talk"
What's so funny to me, is that he is really comfortable expressing his feelings...me...um...not so much..... so as of Saturday night we are officially a couple.

Saturday night, I went out with the girls. We celebrated NDN's birthday...she turned 25 for the 6th time.

Sunday morning Vh1 and I laid around and watched movies. Then around 5p we went to Joe's Crab Shack. I love that place! They sang and danced and stood on tables... it was hot fun.

We stopped and brought some movies. "No country for old men", "Saw 4" and "Walk Hard".
I watched almost all of "No country for old men", and I fell asleep could be because Vh1 kept my Belvedere glass full, game me an awesome message and a few other things...lol....but I slept nice. Real nice.

Um.... I am here at work. Feeling peaceful.
How come everytime I go to get a cup of coffee there's only barely a cup full in there. Which means I have to make more or I look like an asshole? I hate it. So I made some earlier! I refuse to do it. I'm just suffer!

weekend round up

friday: went on a cruise with NDN. a reggae party boat. Fun fun fun. danced. drank and had a ball. vh1 met me at my house after he'd gon out with his friends. we both were toooo drunk to try to get it popping so we fell asleep.

saturday: stace called me early in the morning (we're still friends!! yeahhh) to remind me about going to her exhusbands birthday party, that I'd forgotten about. so vh1 and i had lunch and went shopping for a dress that i could wear to the shindig. I went home and got dressed. picked up stace and went to her exhusbands party. i realize that my girl is jealous. she wants to still be married to him. it's sad to see it happenening and not be able to do nothing about it. I wanted to say "MOVE ON!" but I didn't because I've never been married. so I can't say what I'd do in her situation. We got there about 530. Around 8 I was ready to go, plus I missed vh1. this stupid party was cutting in to our time. I told stace I was ready to go but she was acting like she wasn't. so her exhusbands new wife said she'd take her home if she wasn't ready to go. so i bounced. couldnt stand no more.

later on: vh1 came by and we did our regualr thing. movies and wine.

sunday: sonystudios ( my pregnant friend who was due on Saturday and is now overdue) called me early. she said "get up, lets go get our nails done." I say "ok." vh1 was sleep so i tell him i'm leaving and will be back. he says cool. i get dressed. she calls me again to tell me she's downstairs. I hustle down the stairs and it's really her and her twin sister! Kinkos (my friend that went to alaska!) they surprised me... it was really nice. then kinkos treated me and sonystudios to lunch and mani's and pedi's. the twins met vh1. they like him.

sunday afternoon: vh1 and i went to the grocery store and to the video store, the 3 for $20. he picked out "there will be blood" I picked "Why did I get married" and we both picked some "semi-pro". so we spent the evening eating and watching movies.....sigh.